PART 1 - THE THREE PRACTICES
Chapter 1 - Positivity
- Why Positivity?
- How to Practice Positivity
- Making Positivity Your Habit
Chapter 2 - Choice
- The Power of Choice
- Using Choices to Be More Effective
- Using Choices to Improve Relationships
- Using Choices to Build Responsibility
- Limited vs. Unlimited Choices
- Choices in Life
- Hobson's Choice
- The Ability to Choose Our Responses
- The Victim Trap
- Using Choices to Resolve Conflicts
- Choosing "Choice" as Your New Habit
- Change, Choice, and Ownership
Chapter 3 - Reflection
- Changing Others
- Counterwill
- Influence and Reflection
- The Art of Reflection
- Practice Is the Mother of Skill
- Position Yourself
- Tone of Voice
- Controlling the Conversation
- Concluding Reflections
PART II - THE RAISE RESPONSIBILITY SYSTEM
When I first came upon the system, it was the Hierarchy and its concept of
motivation that initially grabbed my attention. It was the first time I had ever
seen anyone explain that high-level behaviour is actually all about personal
motivation. The contrast between the higher levels points this out perfectly. To
me, the Hierarchy is absolutely brilliant, especially because of its simplicity.
When something is simple enough that even children can understand it and yet is
so striking that many adults are stopped in their tracks, it has to be
something worthwhile. —Kerry Weisner. Parent and Teacher, British Columbia,
Canada
Chapter 4 - Teaching
- The Foundation of the Raise Responsibility System
- Why a Hierarchy?
- The Vocabulary
- An Analogy
- Significant Points about the Hierarchy
- Understanding the Levels
- Additional Notes about the Levels
- Sharing Images and Stories
- Variations of the Levels for Young Children
- Variations of the Levels for Older Children
- Benefits of Teaching the Hierarchy
- Worth the Effort
- Additional Considerations about the Hierarchy
Chapter 5 - Asking
- Dealing with Lower Level Behaviors (Levels B and A)
- Effectively Acknowledging Level D
- What Next?
Chapter 6 - Eliciting
- A Challenging Case
- Using Authority without Being Punitive
- How Guided Choices Work
PART III - ADDITIONAL ASSISTANCE
Chapter 7 - Promoting Responsibility
- Rules
- Procedures Rather than Rules
- Understanding Boys
- Other Suggestions
Chapter 8 - Increasing Effectiveness & Improving Relationships
- The Acorn Principle
- Limit Lecturing
- Listen to Learn
- Family Meetings
- Additional Suggestions
Chapter 9 - Answers to Questions
- General
- The Young
- Older Youth
Part IV - PARENTING PITFALLS
Chapter 10 - Rewarding Expected Behavior
- Reasons Rewards Are Used to Change Behavior
- Rewards and Compensation
- Rewards as Incentives
- Rewards as Acknowledgments
- Rewards Change Motivation
- Rewards to Promote Responsible Behavior
- Self-Esteem
- Additional Considerations about Rewards
Chapter 11 - Imposing Punishments
- The Myth of Punishments
- Problems with Imposed Punishments
- Final Thoughts about Imposed Punishments
Chapter 12 - Telling
- The Ineffectiveness of Telling
- Problems with Telling
- Share Instead of Tell
- Concluding Thoughts about Telling
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